Grooms Party Bible: Best Afield
So all those years of friendship finally paid off and you got yourself a seat at the groom’s table? Then read our grooms party bible.
Walk the line
These days weddings are almost whole weekend affairs. You’re not just with your mate on his wedding day, but required at the engagement, the rehearsals, and game day. You’ve got two very important roles when you’re in the grooms party and they’re worlds apart. If you do this well, you’ll be remembered as both the organised, sensible gentleman of the party and also the one who brought the party to life.
BEFORE THE RECEPTION
Pre Game tips that’ll make the grandparents say things like “what a lovely boy.”
The first is to act the gentleman in the ceremony. Traditionally, groomsmen were asked to usher people to their seats, but today it’s more common that groomsmen will be standing at the altar before the ceremony starts. Even so, if there’s anyone that needs directions when they’re arriving, make sure you’re on hand to lend a hand. These are the things you need to look out for.
Be there in the morning of the ceremony to help your mate through the pre wedding jitters. Make him laugh while he’s getting dressed, trivialise the whole occasion and bring a bit of fun into the room.
Do those awkward odd jobs on wedding day, like hanging the lights back up on the altar when they’re knocked over by the wind. Putting the final touches on the tables, or arranging the flowers.
Don’t get Chevy Chased before the ceremony. Celebratory champagne, yes. Nip of scotch, yes. Cleaning out a brewery, no.
Go out for a good breakfast. In days gone by, groomsmen were there to decorate the wedding cars, but these days it’s more about hanging out together. So go out for breakfast, do some relaxing together, and spend the morning getting yourselves ready.
Treat your opposing bridesmaid like a lady. If you’re walking with her down the aisle let her enjoy the spotlight and play second fiddle. Lead her to her spot in the ceremony. When it comes time to dance later on, then be the one to grab her hand and lead her into the centre.
Save the roast for Christmas Dinner. As George Jessel said, “the human brain starts working the moment you are born and never stops until you stand up to speak in public.”
So in short, preparation is key. Writing and practice your speech so much that you don’t even need your brain to pull it off. The more you rehearse, the more natural you’ll seem. And also, it’s not a 21st, so keep things short, sweet and to the point. No one ever complains about a speech being too short.
Wait on people throughout the night. When you’re going up to get a drink, ask the bridesmaids, or the guests on your table. For all intents and purposes you’re the host, so make sure everyone is focused on enjoying the party.
Once the official duties come to an end, it’s your job to let your hair down first and become the heart of the revelry. Be loud and proud, cheers everyone on your table, and make sure you go and speak to the second cousins of the in laws, even if it’s painful for a few minutes.
Shoulder Ride when the bride and groom finally pack up and leave for the night, be the one to start the cheers. Get loud, start a guard of honour, and sling them up on your shoulders.
LOOK THE PART
Call Tailors Mark and Book a Fitting
Don’t assume that all of those other suit brands know what they’re talking about – we’ve been doing this for years. When it comes time to ordering and fitting your groom’s party suits, take a bit of the pressure off the groom and organise a fitting yourself. We’ll get you fitted in one session, walk you through the customisations and detail options, and then make any alterations when they arrive.